I have unrealistically high expectations of myself, and unrealistically low expectations of others. This way, the only person who ever disappoints me is ... well ... me! I wish I could find a way to lower my bar and raise theirs - I think it would hurt far less to be a little more disappointed in others and a little less disappointed in myself.
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Given enough time, most people around us will find a way to dissapoint us.
Yes, I share both of your statements. If you find that balance in between please send a little my way too.
Most well-liked people are only disliked by themselves, or others that hate over-achievers. Growing older helps a person find a balance. I'm fond of saying; "I used to have quite a temper, but Life beat it out of me"...
I kinda agree with Buffalo. As I get older I just accept things in myself and others as they are. I don't think about it too much. Cheers Dana!!
The problem for me is I can't be disappointed in others because I'm pretty convinced that just about everyone else is a moron.
Being disappointed by others sucks, but there is nothing worse than being disappointed in yourself.
I generally have very low expectations of others too. I try to be realistic about what I should expect from myself, but that's hard to do.
just do what I do.... remember that book " I'm ok, you're ok" well I am ok but I am not so sure about everyone else...so I guess I agree with talisman -as much as I can that is...
The interesting thing about expectations is that we live believing that there is such a thing! What would it be like for you if you didn't have to worry about expectations and you simply knew we are all the same, human?
Just be.
I'm a hope for the best, expect the least type person. Or at least that's what I tell myself. In reality, I desperately want to believe people have the best intentions at heart, even when I know they don't. I try too hard to see both sides of the story and to rationalize the behavior of others.
I am my own greatest disappointment, as well.
I like the picture you put with this secret. Fits perfectly. Sorry you're so hard on yourself. :(
I think I may be the opposite. I put too much faith in human beings and maybe not enough in myself.
I'm such a Pollyanna that I see the best in everyone...untill they fuck me over! lol
As for myself...It's a learning process. The older i get the easier I am on me though. I hope you get there too. :)
I keep expectations of myself only high enough to balance out the dissapointments I have in myself.
Ya win, Ya lose.
Try your "best" to have everyday a great day.
Jeff, I'll let you know when I find that balance!
Buff, I like your saying, and I have to admit that I do see more of a balance as I get older.
Matt-Man, but over-analyzing things is so productive, don't you think??
Tali, great ... so now I can find balance by knowing that you think I am a moron - *gigglesnort*
Karen, I will say that I spend a great deal of time wondering why I don't do "better than ...", time that could probably used actually doing better.
Jay, I'd settle for being more realistic about expectations of myself.
DB, sometimes you comments just crack me up ...
6%, I will agree that we are all human, but without expectation of how we can be better, how can we be better?
Boo(duh), I gave up long ago in thinking people have the best intentions for anyone but themselves. Sure, there are exceptions, but we all do this to some extent.
FF, some day I'll learn ...
Corky, that's unfortunate because from what I've "seen", you are a pretty amazing person!
tt, I guess you can't see the best without seeing the worst!
I'm the exact opposite Dana...
I expect to be waited on hand and foot and I'm supposed to just lay in front of the TV with my hand restin' on my ....knee.
It never works out that way but still...
I dissapoint myself sometimes. Other dissapoint me most times. I think it is easier to rationalize the dissapointment if the source is yourself. I am pleasantly suprised and acknowledge to myself when not dissapointed. The ups and downs, gotta have one to appreciate the other. Ups/downs ins/outs and forwadrs/backwards.
whats so funny?
Hmmmm, I'm not really sure what to say, but I do understand what you mean.
I'm sorta that way with "things and situations". I remember the first time I bought a car. I just KNEW they weren't going to approve me so I went in to the deal dissapointed, and when I got it, THEN I was pleasantly surprised! I have always been that way, too. My therapist told me one time I'm missing out on all the other emotions that come with life, but whatever!
I have high expectations of myself and everyone else. I'm constantly disappointed. I think I need to change the way I look at life and get some peace.
Wow, we are sister's my another mother.
I have found your blog through a friend of a friend and really enjoy your writings.
I have also turned you on to a few of my other friends and they find you just as interesting as I do.
Keep up the good work.
p.s. you blog chapters on you husband who passed, kept me going for days. Good writing and a real good read.
Shazam!
I needed to read this one!
Have a beautiful day!
Micky, I would say you've achieved balance!
Slick, and somehow you remain married *wink*
Lu, I got motion sickness reading your comment *gigglesnort*
DB, so I guess I agree with talisman -as much as I can that is... - that was what made me giggle!
Bina, I'm not talking about expecting the worst, but rather setting unreasonable, unattainable goals for myself, and then beating myself up when I don't achieve them.
Apple, everyone else?? YIKES! No that would be a challenge!
Cat, thanks for stopping by and thanks for the "referrals" - now I had better get my butt on over to your blog and take a peek!
Liquid, funny how that happens sometimes!
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