~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~My greatest fear? Making a wrong decision. In fact, it is a fear so overwhelming it often times immobilizes my ability to think logically and I tread water for years rather than risk moving forward.
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"Poop or get off of the pot". A blunt quote that sums up the criteria for action on a lot of issues and challenges. Dana, it is hard to make decisions sometimes. But we all have to make them every day. I think your time in the Army should have given you a basic outline on isolating the issue and acting on the solution. Having said that, I too have suffered from your fear. It is hard once in awhile to make choices. You are a smart Lady. Once in a while you have to trust that grey matter between your ears and move forward on the challenges in your life. "Lead, follow or get out of the way". I pray that you are the leader in that quote.
Doomed, I *know* that, but after having made bad decision after bad decision, my confidence in making good decisions has suffered. And the Army? One of the reasons I joined was so that I didn't have to make any decisions - they were made for me!
Pretend you are in the army again. Love your life and Cam. Make both of your life's worth living every day. Smell the roses. Give Cam every opportunity he can handle. Make yourself and Cam better people every day. Ghost Rider, Johnny Blaze: My daddy once said, "If you don't make a choice, the choice makes you." Dana, you can't control everything in your life or the future. But you have to start somewhere. Even a broke clock is right twice a day. You will change your life and make it better one decision at a time. Good luck!
Dana: I've never had that problem and it has its advantages indeed. I have made so many bad decisions along the way, I am pleasantly surprised when I make one that works out. It's like Christmas!!
Thus, I never hesitate to make a decision. Good Luck, Dana and Cheers!!
One of my favorite sayings is "Do something, even if it's wrong!" Indecision has probably killed more people than wrong decisions..
"lead,follow, or get out of the way" could not be more appropriate - doing nothing does not count as doing something - all that 'treading' and you will become water logged and you will sink, swim to one side or the other and get out!
I do the same thing, Dana. You are not alone. Sometimes I just wish I could just decided, act, and accept defeat.
Sounds like everyone beat me to the punch....a decision, even one that is deemd incorrect by others, is action. Just treading water is bad for you.
My parent's always said that there is nothing that brains and money can't fix. (Other than illnesses). That has always stuck with me and I always believe that there isn't a problem that I can't fix - somehow. So if I make the wrong decision, I can just fix it and get back on the right path.
But I have just myself to be responsible for. I think that makes it easier to does with the consequences of a mistake.
hmmm....I just said the same exact thing to someone last night....I said that I am so afraid to make the wrong decision that I tend to not make a decision thinking I am delaying make a mistake?
Fear is paralyzing...
Not making a decision is making a decision.
I am similar, but I find it is usually because the choice I know that I *should* make it one that will be very hard. Avoiding is so much easier.
When hubby wants to know what I think about one of his decisions I say was that your first thought, then do the opposite. He doesn't always make good decisions either; I hope I was one of the good ones HA!
Wrong decisions can generally be corrected. Non decisions are always questioned.
Prof Fate gave you one of my favorite quotes that I keep with me....
"Not making a decision is making a decision."
I am the *worst* at making decisions. I am the queen of INDECISION. And that can be over silly things like what movie we should see, or where we go out to eat. My anxiety goes through the roof when I'm forced to make *major* decisions.
I'm no help to you.... *hugs*
Matt-Man, I think the difference is that I've made a decision (bad or good) that took the life of another human being. That wasn't just a bad decision to have to make, it was one that I was in no way equiped to handle at 25.
Buff, you are likely correct!
DB, you are very right!
Average, and that is part of it - not wanting to "lose." Thinking that if I just try a little harder I won't be a failure.
UzzyB, well, treading water does build endurance!
Karen, brains and money? Well, I'm missing one of those key components - and it isn't brains! And yes, it was much easier when it was just me "paying" for my mistakes.
Breve, fear is paralyzing!
Fate, although I've heard this before, IMHO, inaction is really not a decision - it's a default.
Biscuit, avoidance is a HUGE part of this!
Lu, I'm sure you were the best decision!
Jeff, not in my history - some decisions are quite final.
Vixen, for me, it's the big stuff. Where to go for dinner? What to wear? Those are easy ones for me, but when my actions have the potential to significantly impact others? Not easy ...
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