Doggybloggy, no - we were never married and, although he knew about my son, he never did meet him.
Buffalodickdy, I will say that the main reason I haven't shared this with him is that I don't have any answers. I found out he died when attempting to track him down for child support and finding his death certificate instead.
One of the reasons I "bare" my soul with these Sunday secrets is to get the feedback that secrets never receive. I appreciate it!
I also believe that you should probably tell him. If it were me, I know I'd like to know... even if it would hurt.
I don't know if your son has a father figure in his life (someone he sees as his father in any way), but I grew up apart from my dad. Even through all the years I never heard from him or saw him, I wanted to know he was doing ok.
Well this wasn't a secret for me since I already knew that, BUT ... I will say now what I said then because it seems like nobody else is on this side of the fence...
Why bother telling him? The guy never gave a shit about him or he would have been in his life. What's the point in hurting your son over a guy he never met and doesn't even talk about? I'd personally wait until he's older and more mature and better equipped to understand and cope with it.
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It's early...Is that true, or is it a dark joke? Cheers!!
Matt-man, all of my Sunday Secrets are TRUE - including this one ...
Wow...Enjoy the day and have a Merry Christmas, Dana. Cheers!!
happy holidays and that is some secret....were you married to him?
Dana- You know best, but maybe you should think about telling him- it may bring more than one kind of closure for him...
Doggybloggy, no - we were never married and, although he knew about my son, he never did meet him.
Buffalodickdy, I will say that the main reason I haven't shared this with him is that I don't have any answers. I found out he died when attempting to track him down for child support and finding his death certificate instead.
One of the reasons I "bare" my soul with these Sunday secrets is to get the feedback that secrets never receive. I appreciate it!
Wow... that is some secret.
I also believe that you should probably tell him. If it were me, I know I'd like to know... even if it would hurt.
I don't know if your son has a father figure in his life (someone he sees as his father in any way), but I grew up apart from my dad. Even through all the years I never heard from him or saw him, I wanted to know he was doing ok.
WOW
That's heavy.
That's pretty rough stuff. I was adopted and I've toyed around with searching for my biological parents. Maybe someday.
r.e.h., after seeing the feedback of so many of you, I've decided to take care of this after the holidays. It's a secret that shouldn't be.
thebirdman33, some of these secrets are!
CPT Corky, it's good to see you back, and thanks for your perspective!
Whoa....
No use in even offering until he's ready to hear.
I'm glad that you've decided to tell him. Eventually he would have asked on is own, at least this way you'll have some control over the situation.
Good luck Dana.
Well this wasn't a secret for me since I already knew that, BUT ... I will say now what I said then because it seems like nobody else is on this side of the fence...
Why bother telling him? The guy never gave a shit about him or he would have been in his life. What's the point in hurting your son over a guy he never met and doesn't even talk about? I'd personally wait until he's older and more mature and better equipped to understand and cope with it.
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