23 December 2007

Sunday Secret


My son's biological father died over two years ago, and since he never asks about him anymore, I haven't shared the news.

13 comments:

Schmoop said...

It's early...Is that true, or is it a dark joke? Cheers!!

Dana said...

Matt-man, all of my Sunday Secrets are TRUE - including this one ...

Schmoop said...

Wow...Enjoy the day and have a Merry Christmas, Dana. Cheers!!

Christo Gonzales said...

happy holidays and that is some secret....were you married to him?

buffalodick said...

Dana- You know best, but maybe you should think about telling him- it may bring more than one kind of closure for him...

Dana said...

Doggybloggy, no - we were never married and, although he knew about my son, he never did meet him.

Buffalodickdy, I will say that the main reason I haven't shared this with him is that I don't have any answers. I found out he died when attempting to track him down for child support and finding his death certificate instead.

One of the reasons I "bare" my soul with these Sunday secrets is to get the feedback that secrets never receive. I appreciate it!

R.E.H. said...

Wow... that is some secret.

I also believe that you should probably tell him. If it were me, I know I'd like to know... even if it would hurt.

I don't know if your son has a father figure in his life (someone he sees as his father in any way), but I grew up apart from my dad. Even through all the years I never heard from him or saw him, I wanted to know he was doing ok.

Anonymous said...

WOW
That's heavy.

captain corky said...

That's pretty rough stuff. I was adopted and I've toyed around with searching for my biological parents. Maybe someday.

Dana said...

r.e.h., after seeing the feedback of so many of you, I've decided to take care of this after the holidays. It's a secret that shouldn't be.

thebirdman33, some of these secrets are!

CPT Corky, it's good to see you back, and thanks for your perspective!

Anonymous said...

Whoa....

No use in even offering until he's ready to hear.

Leighann said...

I'm glad that you've decided to tell him. Eventually he would have asked on is own, at least this way you'll have some control over the situation.

Good luck Dana.

Anonymous said...

Well this wasn't a secret for me since I already knew that, BUT ... I will say now what I said then because it seems like nobody else is on this side of the fence...

Why bother telling him? The guy never gave a shit about him or he would have been in his life. What's the point in hurting your son over a guy he never met and doesn't even talk about? I'd personally wait until he's older and more mature and better equipped to understand and cope with it.