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WOOHOO!! Seems this has been corrected. A special thanks to those of you who offered your help. I never cease to be amazed by the camaraderie of bloggers and their willingness to offer a helping hand when someone isan idiot in a bind. Y'all are the best!
WOOHOO!! Seems this has been corrected. A special thanks to those of you who offered your help. I never cease to be amazed by the camaraderie of bloggers and their willingness to offer a helping hand when someone is
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We've had a long winter in northern Illinois this year. It was COLD ... very COLD ... for a very LONG time. We had snow early in the season that stayed until early March. When we finally hit spring on the calendar, I was hopeful I'd start to see buds on the trees and the green tips of daffodils and tulips starting to peak out from hibernation. Ha!
Sunday morning I woke up to this ...
Sunday morning I woke up to this ...
It was quite beautiful - almost like viewing the world through a pair of B & W glasses - but also caused a bit of damage. We started with freezing rain Saturday night. Add 7" of heavy, wet snow and branches begin snapping under the pressure.
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Cam is back to school this week. Unfortunately, his spring break wasn't what he had hoped it would be. An impulsive decision on Tuesday to dig through husband's desk to find the "hidden" PS3 controllers and the unexpected, early return of husband from work resulted in the loss of his cell phone - and the home phone - for the remainder of the week.
Actually, this situation could have been entirely avoided. Husband decided to purchase a PS3 for the "family," yet declared it was his. This declaration meant "No one is to play my PS3 without asking me first" but never were those words spoken. Not only that, but he hooked it up to the TV in the living room - talk about constant temptation. When you've got a 13-year old who is expert at finding loop-holes, clarity and common sense in parenting are critical.
Of course, I could have overridden the punishment (husband and I recently agreed that all discipline would be discussed between us prior to implementation), but the bottom line is that Cam walked into husband's office and rifled through his desk to find the controllers. Impulsivity issues or not, Cam knows the expectations of privacy in our home and his decision to compromise those expectations was unacceptable.
Personally? I think my choice of punishment would have been to go through Cam's desk while he sat on his bed and watched. Something tells me the feeling of having his privacy violated might have provided a much more useful lesson!
Actually, this situation could have been entirely avoided. Husband decided to purchase a PS3 for the "family," yet declared it was his. This declaration meant "No one is to play my PS3 without asking me first" but never were those words spoken. Not only that, but he hooked it up to the TV in the living room - talk about constant temptation. When you've got a 13-year old who is expert at finding loop-holes, clarity and common sense in parenting are critical.
Of course, I could have overridden the punishment (husband and I recently agreed that all discipline would be discussed between us prior to implementation), but the bottom line is that Cam walked into husband's office and rifled through his desk to find the controllers. Impulsivity issues or not, Cam knows the expectations of privacy in our home and his decision to compromise those expectations was unacceptable.
Personally? I think my choice of punishment would have been to go through Cam's desk while he sat on his bed and watched. Something tells me the feeling of having his privacy violated might have provided a much more useful lesson!
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Those of you who read me regularly will notice my HNT archive is "missing". It's in the process of being moved to a separate blog - one that allows me to block access to those who find it so terribly disgusting and offensive, but can't seem to delete that bookmark from their computer or keep their fingers from typing in the blog address. It seems 13 year olds aren't the only ones with obsession impulse control issues.
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32 comments:
Tell him to quit snooping, or get better at it!
I guess your feed wasn't going through my blogger dashboard, but it linked right to you through M's blog, strange. Dis-regard the part in my email pertaining to your blog. LOL. I can't imagine people finding your HNT's disgusting!
Perhaps we should find a way to punish snugs for continuing to snoop in the HNTs! lol
Looks like her self-control is a tad lacking, too.
Do add me to the new blog invitees!
All that snow is beautiful, but I wouldn't trade it for our 75 degree days with the tulips and daffodils blooming!
As someone who would have been furious at anyone who went through my desk, I think Cam's punishment was more than fair. Husband declaring the PS3 "HIS?" Quite childish.
I don't know what to do about your feed. Usually deleting a blog from reader and then re-adding it using Blogger's default feed works, but I just tried it on yours and it didn't. So, not sure what to try now. Maybe somebody will figure something out.
I am a big fan of punishments that fit the crime. Rehabilitation is better than straight punishment if they can be conjoined. The husband needs to learn to share his toys.
I have noticed feedburner's link yo my.yahoo has been slow (a few days at times) lately.
Taking away cell phones usually do the trick for a little while. My 14 yr old son just got his cell phone back after a week of missing it.
He's being very good right now :)
I agree though, your husband shouldn't taunt and tease with the system in the living room...that's kinda harsh.
But then Cam needs punishment also for the privacy intrusion.
Privacy must never be violated. Cam violated and got caught. The punishment did fit the crime in this instance.
I am not sure what has happened with your feed. Did you add something to your blog template recently?
My feed was not reaching other blogs, then I changed my template and all is good.
sorry, but buying a PS3 and keeping it away from the 13 yr old is an asshole thing for your husband to do. to take it away as punishment is one thing, but he's being a bully by putting it in plain view of Cam and not letting him play it. do you have a tv in your room that you can "help" him out by hooking it up to? i feel sorry for your husband when you finally have enough and unload on him. you have so much more patience than i do.
I agree with your choice of punishment for Cam. Once he knows how it feels, he would be less likely to do it again in the future.
And you are going to email all your faithful and loving followers your new blog link, right??? I absolutely can not miss a HNT Dana!!!!
That seems like an awfully mean temptation for Cam.
I'm LOL at your (better) idea of a punishment. I think you're right, he might have benefited more from it ;)
*sigh* I think your decision to move your HNT's is a wise one. Sad as it may be that you have to take precautionary measures to prevent another person's actions.
By the way, I know I shouldn't say this, but..Those pictures are beautiful!!!!!!
P.S. I'll ask my husband (who is my computer guru, lol) about your feed issues.
You're moving your HNT because of someone else?
I understand your point, but man, I wouldn't succumb to somebody controlling what I do. Serioulsy. And, I'm not being a jerk here.
I'm saying that in a way, you're allowing others to dictate what you do. Cheers!!
Oh, I got shivers at the thought of having to sit on my bed and watch while someone rummaged through my desk drawers--especially when I was 13, because that's where I "hid" all the good stuff! Cam shouldn't have rummaged through the desk of the husband, especially knowing what husband is like. Because, really...taunting a 13-year-old with a PS3 that he can never play? WTF? That's sick. It's like Cam was being set up to fail on that one! And that's why I personally would buy the 13-year-old his own PS3 and a really nice TV to hook it up to. And you're the one who's supposed to take care of the discipline, yet he goes ahead and does it anyway? I am all about personal responsibility and consequences of actions but, in this case, why is it only Cam who has to pay. I think husband needs to be punished for being an asshole.
I know. Why don't I just say what I really feel, huh? It just seems like husband has a little sadistic streak and Cam is certainly the target of that quite a bit...Man, I'd have impulse control issues, too. It would take everything I had to not deck the guy. Sheesh.
Okay, I feel better now that I just came right out and said it. Hope you'll still let me in on the HNTs because I think they're beautiful.
At least I don't have any HTML advice. :)
Seeing those pictures makes me glad I am living here in Georgia instead of Illinois, where I grew up.
Buff, he'll never get any better at snooping than I am at discovering his snooping!
C, well, you know what they same, some people's taste is all in their mouth!
RLL, the new HNT blog will not be invite only, but rather is hosted on a platform that allows me to block individuals based on IP addresses and/or user names. I'll let y'all know where it is when it's up and running!
Jay, I agree - the compromise of privacy was WAY out of line and deserving of consequences.
Fortunately, I had a volunteer who is well versed in html offer to take a look at my template to see if he can find the "offending" content. We shall see!
Fate, I think logical consequences are far more effective than random punishments.
Slick, I even asked husband how long he was planning on taunting Cam with the PS3. He doesn't see it as taunting ... or so he claims.
Bond, I know that Cam enjoys his privacy - or did - I feel a little less compelled now to protect that privilege.
And yes, I did quite a bit with my template this weekend and have no doubt that I am directly responsible for the feed issue ... I just don't know what to look for!
jen deaux, oh ... trust me ... I am not allowed to touch husband's PS3 either. It will stay where it is and just be a thorn in everyone's side.
Bina, of course I'll let you all know where the HNT's are moving to! The new platform just gives some additional privacy and CONTROL options *wink*
And yes, the snow is beautiful ... if it were DECEMBER!!! Not so much the last few days of March!
Vixen, I agree, especially since it is the first gaming platform we have ever had in the house.
I'm not thrilled with feeling like I've "sold out" on the HNT issue either, but sometimes common sense must override digging in one's heels.
Matt-Man, at this point the potential for harm of others (primarily Cam) is greater than my need to prove a point. You are right - I *am* allowing others to dictate what I do - and I'm struggling with that decision.
kim-d, husband's view is an interesting one for me to attempt to grasp, but I believe it's really all about control. We (Cam, step-daughter and I) actually came home from church this weekend to find him sitting in front of the TV playing the damn thing. I just shook my head and asked if we should go elsewhere in the house to watch television.
You must have gotten something fixed, because the last two posts, that I have already read, have showed up in my reader! Yea!
I think it's fixed. My reader just started working too.
the snow is lovely...at least to me who has to travel a few hours to see any...smile.
Cam knew better than to go thru his dad's desk and punishment makes sense ...although...going thru Cam's desk might have been a great lesson for the future.
I find it regrettable that you feel compelled to move the HNT portion of your weblog. Will you actually be able to keep your detractor away? Or just make them work harder to view what they object to?
in a few weeks it will be opening day for the Cubs wonder if it
snow that day hope not
at least most of the snow melted the next day
being 13 is a very difficult age for all involed a learning curve
for all and i assume Cam has learned that this week to respect everyone's privacy
protecting our kids often has a way of overrifing other poits we are trying to make or live. Good luck with getting that other site geared up, mama!
I got nailed for taking two 22 caliber bullets out of cousin Barry's desk when I was in the second grade. I would have gotten away with it too if that pesky principal hadn't discovered that I brought them to school the next day to show my friends. The bastard must have had informants.
My mother made me call Barry and confess to him what I had done. He was pretty mad at me.
Then in the 7th grade I copied a friends book report on an American Indian tribe (can't remember which tribe). Unfortunately for me, my mother found Joe's book report, which I stashed under a mattress instead of throwing out. In hind sight I think it must have been a cry for help.
Mom made me tell my history teacher and as a result I failed that semester of 7th grade history.
I could go on but then what would me and my therapist talk about...
Poor Cam. Tried to pull off some daring, under-the-radar gaming and got busted.
I did similar stuff when I was a teenager.
I guess publicly you've got to show stern reprimand. Privately, you've gotta smirk, right?
I sort of think it is wise to move the HNT stuff to speparate place. I often do my blog reading at work and I have to be careful not to click on your site in my reader (or others) on Thursday. It is not always impulse control....It is sometimes our brain-farts that make problems.
And I think going through Cam's desk would have been classic punishment!
so if I agreed that it is a good idea to move the HNT to private I suppose you would decide against, so I will just remain neutral on it
Howard, the good news is that 48 hours later it is all gone!
Bina & Knight, Yes! It was just an idiot oversight. I feel quite foolish actually!
Kat, I'm sure I won't be able to keep my detractor (I Like that word) away, but I'll be able to block by IP addy and/or user name without going private.
wayne, I think Cam has certainly gotten a better grip on privacy!
Hope, still working on the other blog, but have yet to make a decision.
Corky, you'll be sending your therapist's kids and grandkids through college, won't you?!
Leonhart, and smirk I did! If he only knew how sneaky I know how to be he'd realize he needs to work a lot harder.
Karen, what are you doing checking your reader at work?? *wink*
snugs, don't get carried away. I never said anything about private! If I move it the blog will still be public, but I'll be able to blog viewers by IP address and/or user name so that those that have difficulty staying away can get a little help with the process.
For the record, your HNT are about the most tasteful I have seen....geesh!
And it is ridiculous that you have to be someone else's conscious and Holy Spirit so to speak.....I just love this "I am not responsible for my own actions....save me from myself because I am too weak to do it" attitude. We are becoming a world of wimps and cry babies!!
I will continue to look forward to your HNT!!!
Stay warm!
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