Had I just waited until Sunday evening to post my secret I'd have had a real doosey. Most of you know that marital bliss has not been on my radar for quite some time. There's been some fence sitting.Well, the clarity fairies visited yesterday. A verbal argument escalated rapidly into the shattering of a glass full of milk against a wall I was standing by. I was concerned for my safety - I felt the situation had the potential to escalate to a point where someone (me) could get hurt - my gut reaction was to dial 911. Although I thought I hung up before the call connected, the police were pounding on the door within 3 minutes. Their visit quickly changed the tone of the situation.
I do believe this is the beginning of the end. It's clear that this relationship is out of control, and I don't know that either of us feels it has the potential to mend itself, even with a lot of work. This was not the way I had hoped it would end. There is much uncertainty. I will keep y'all updated as time allows.
**UPDATE**
I want to thank all of you for your support, wisdom and kind thoughts. I can't bring myself to answer each of your comments with the same, "Thank You!" but know that I am grateful to have a safe place to sort my thoughts. There is much more to this story, as I am sure many of you assumed. Although I was not the one who threw the glass, I certainly played a part in escalating this situation.
This blog may take on a bit of a different direction in the coming weeks - I do hope you all will stay with me through the process. Don't worry, HNT will still be a regular feature! Silly as this might sound, there is something quite healing in taking and viewing those pics.
Now excuse me while I go eat a sleeve of Thin Mints and drink some Bagwine ...
This blog may take on a bit of a different direction in the coming weeks - I do hope you all will stay with me through the process. Don't worry, HNT will still be a regular feature! Silly as this might sound, there is something quite healing in taking and viewing those pics.
Now excuse me while I go eat a sleeve of Thin Mints and drink some Bagwine ...
30 comments:
Oh, I am so very sorry. What a terrible situation to be in. I've been there, believe me (with an ex husband). If you want to talk, you know my email. If you need anything at all, please just let me know. I don't know what I can do, but I can certainly listen and I never judge, ever!
I'll be thinking of you.
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Dana, so sorry to hear all about this :(
Hope you are okay today? I can`t offer any advice, but always willing to listen if thats helps you in any way?
So you are going through this, but you know deep down you need to do what is best for you and your son. We are all love you and are here for you. (hugs)
Ooo my....I'm so sorry it came to that. Be strong for the world and let your hair down for us...we'll have strong shoulders for you and big cyber hugs just waiting...want some wine and maybe some chocolate covered strawberries ....I'll bring them over..( cyberly) :)
if there is anything I can do....anything at all .... let me know
I rather believe that there are many folks who have similar secrets.
Dana, I can't begin to imagine what your night was like. I can only hope that the appearance of the police will keep him in check until the 2 of you can get out of this. Please stay safe and ALWAYS go with your gut, even if it seems silly or over-reacting.
Again, I'm hear if you need someone.
*hugs* I'm here if you need me whether for a phone call or even an escape plan. Just show up if you have to, you don't even have to call. Someone's bound to be home and if not we will back shortly.
So sad when it dissolves in that way... Nothing was ever thrown with us..but the words were as damaging as any glass milk bottle could have been, so I understand.
Stay strong my friend and remember...the second the call connects, they have the address and will ALWAYS follow up...
Dana,
I am sorry to hear about this. This really sucks. Thoughts and prayers going your way.
Flyinfox_SATX
Dana I hope that you're as okay as you can be right now. I'm here if you need me and PLEASE don't hesitate to take Tali up on her offer.
::hugs::
Very sorry about this situation, but things are definitely going in the wrong direction. Nobody has to put up with shit like that.
I agree with what's been said. No one should have to put up with that.
Although I have been known to throw things when I get really mad, but never a glass of milk! Not only would I not want to deal with glass shrapnel, I wouldn't waste milk like that. ;)
He sounds like a real treat. Can't you make him leave though? If not, I'd be making a run for it.
Do what must be done, do it quickly and without second though - Lot's wife. And thinking of it as taking out the trash - clearing up room in your life to be filled with new and wonderful things. (then come to Seattle)
:: HUGS ::
I'm here if you need an ear. You are well supported. Just look around at all of us that have your back.
You can get through this. You deserve love and respect. It's high time you found it.
XOXO
Hey Dana - Please be careful and take care of yourself
shit. shit. shit.
Okay, if I had a secret sunday, I would say I have been the glass thrower once. It just took once.
I felt so emotional cornered, so emotional bullied, that I reacted. I exploded. I threw that glass and it shattered against the wall. All three of my children were in that room of glass shrapnel.
That fury. That reaction. Scared the holy living shit out of me.
My kids fear was worse.
It never happened before and never since. I think it was a remnant of my childhood abuse. It shook me to the core.
Hopefully, this was a one time thing with him. I hope whatever the outcome you come out whole.
Hugs.
Yikes. You did the right thing.
Scary stuff. Stay strong.
I'm so sorry to hear about that. But, if there is any threat of physical abuse, you need to get the hell out of that relationship ASAP.
I hope it all works out for the best for you and your son.
I know we have not heard all of the story and there is a lot more to it but based on this alone... RUN. Don't wait until the glass actually hits you.
Baby doll, isn't it the shittiest feeling in the world to fear for your own safety while IN YOUR OWN FUCKING HOME! Been there once and only once and never hope to revisit. It was something so STUPID. I will surely stick by. Vent, I'll listen and comment. Git half nekkid, I'll look and comment. Want feed back I'll give it for what it's worth.
I hope everything is OK today. Good thoughts going out your way. :)
Sorry to hear all of this Dana. I'll be thinking of you. Cheers!!
i'd like to offer up some wise saying or just the right comforting words, but I'm at a loss, so please know that I hope you are all right and safe. Stay strong.
I hope all is well, remember that we're all here for you, whether just to listen or provide some sort of entertainment when you need us!
I'm glad that you are doing ok now and that you are taking steps to make your situation safer. It's unexcusable for things to get to that point, no matter what you did to "escalate" (as long as you didn't hit him)
Well, I'll give you this- You aren't bored much, are you? Kidding aside, I hope comes out for the best(for you!)and peacefully...
its a small world... some of us are going through the same things... us meaning well me. I feel your pain. May we heal together. mexico was my last hope. i am still on the fence.
I'm sorry that you're going through all of this...
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