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As you all know, I often struggle with this idea of being liked - when you don't like yourself - when you've spent years reminding yourself how unlikable you are - it's difficult to make the move back towards valuing yourself. Blogging has been a huge help with that process.Sure, there are times (many) when I believe the comments left on my HNT's are little more than people playing "nice," and I'm often just waiting for that moment when everyone stops reading my blog because I've said something "offensive," but I really am getting better at realizing that I might just be likable - at least some of the time.
So, where am I going with this? When I got home from work on Friday, there was a box on the front porch from ProFlowers, and it was addressed to me! My first thought was, "Who the hell?" I grabbed the box and headed inside - I couldn't imagine who would send flowers, but was fairly certain it had to be family. I open the box and found these!
I also found a card that read, in part:
The most I can do for my friend is simply be his friend.The card and the flowers were beautiful, and they were from Real Live Lesbian (Lynn). Seldom do I give myself credit for the "little" things I do for others, and yet here was someone forcing me to do just that. It felt good to know that I made a positive contribution to a friendship, and even better that I was able to accept that and give myself credit for it.
~ Henry David Thoreau
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26 comments:
You are all of the things that you are hoping to be. WE know it, even if you don't.
Lynn is a doll :)
First of all your first comment is cracking me up. :D
2nd of all - the flowers are beautiful as is the wall behind them! It's nice when a friend is appreciated. ;)
Oh, and I wonder the same damn thing about my HNT comments so don't feel all alone on that one.
Oswald, I am having a difficult time reading your blog - even with the translation, but think you are likely hoping to generate income rather than readership. Or am I losing something in translation?
Biscuit, Lynn is a doll - it's a good thing she is taken or I'd have to stalk here!
FF, yeah ... not sure about Oswald ...
My wall! It's my decorating victory in my home. Venitian plaster, much to the protest of husband. I'll have to take a picture of the entire wall and post it. It really is my favorite part of this house.
You're definitely likeable! You were an instant hit with me from the moment you arrived on the scene. ;)
R.L.L. is a smart and thoughtful lady to have sent you flowers. You are just going to have to face reality and realize that you are worth a field of flowers, a rather large field in my opinion. Isn't it time you accepted our judgment on your wonderful thoughts and comments on your blog? We have found them to be worthy and beautiful.
Look Dana, the fact that people read your blog means they LIKE reading what you post. Sure, there may be an occasional troll, but that's because some people are Oxygen Thiefs with no life of their own and they only feel better about themselves if they can pick on someone else.
I don't like the Daily Kos (spit). Guess what? I don't read it. I sure don't waste my time commenting.
That being said, some of us REALLY enjoy your HNT posts and look forward to them. Especially the ones that when you click on the pic, you get to see a nipple etc!
Beautiful flowers. It is wonderful to realize how you positively effect others. Wonderful.
I forgot. Oswald is one of the scam artists. It's unlikely he even posted his comment himself, that's why it's so generic. He uses software to comment on people's blogs hoping they will come to his site. Run a virus scan and spyware IMMEDIATELY IF NOT SOONER if you visited it. He, and others like him are the reason so many blogs use those annoying, funny looking letters in order to comment.
Corky, but you are a fan of Bird Man too! *giggle*
Doomed, I'm working on that acceptance part. I will say that the positive messages are giving those negative thoughts a run for their money these days!
Chris, Oxygen Thieves ... I like that! And thanks for the heads-up on good old Oswald!
The flowers are very nice!
I totally relate to you. I'm pretty sure that one of these days all of the sudden I'm only going get like 2 comments and 6 hits a day.
Although, I do think that some people probably are "just playing nice." (Not necessarily anyone here.) I mean, that's the way it works in real life, so it would work that way here too, right?
In the sweetness of friendship; let there be laughter and the sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed. ~ Kahlil Gibran
What's not to like....really? Seriously.
RLL is a hoot. She's could make a fortune if she figured out how to bottle up all that charm and personality! what was it that you sent her a while back?? I forget.
Liking oneself turns out to be one of the hardest things in life to do. We all seem to develop this little voice in our heads that tells us, "we're screwing up," "we're not worthy or likable," et cetera. This is frequently true for people who've got a lot of success in life and/or friends and/or very attractive. Rogerian therapy is based on the notion of "unconditional positive self regard." Easily said, not so easily done. But we must keep trying, else the joys, and flowers that come into our lives will slip by us unnoticed.
Awww!!!! That had to have made your day. How very sweet of her!
:)
Wow! Flowers simply to say how much someone appreciates you...fabulous. And you are very nice and a wonderful person to know, I knew that just after the cab ride to North Chitown!
Hello you !!
Its not about being nice its about writing about how you feel, you shoulnd't be trying to please people, say it as it is if people find it offensive then they are entitled to their opions.
Take care
Nicey
Bully for you. They look great Dana. Have a lovely, flowery day. Cheers!!
You know...I sort of addressed that same topic on my blog recently. But then I made a sharp turn in another direction. Little things are important. And they don't go unnoticed.
Those are beautiful and I'm sure very much deserved. It's amazing what a blog and a little honesty can create between two people.
Lynn is a babe! And for the record, so are you! The flowers are nice.
Yeah, let's see more of that wall!
First off, WOW, that picture is great. Absolutely beautiful. Wow make it big and just enjoy the colors. Secondly, I think you know I think you rock. Wouldn't say it if I didn't think it 'cause I don't have to.
Awww, thats so awesome. You definitely deserve 'em. And they're gorgeous!
I wonder the same for myself. If I'll accidentally say the wrong thing by mistake. And I suck at taking compliments.
LUV these flowers. You are all kinds of likeable, Dana. Much more than you know ; )
Those are just beautiful! She is the nicest, cutest thing! I need to visit her more often.
But Dana, I understand completely where you are coming from. We have had such similar lives it's scary. And ya know, I still don't like myself and don't think other people do either. I think that's why I'm such a loner.
You deserve flowers sugar. And the like part just comes naturally;-)
I suppose I can understand how your earlier life, and apparently your marriage has left you feeling unlikeable at times. I hope that you can accept that WE like you and for what it's worth, I think you are an excellent writer and a sweet, sweet lady. It doesn't hurt that you show us some skin once a week either ;) Seriously though, I hope you will come to realize that you are a likeable, loveable person, just not everyone who should like and or love you, is capable of doing so. THAT is their issue.
FMD
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