It may have been the right thing to do, but calling the police to report a crime my son was involved in was one of the most difficult things I've ever done.
When my sister was 14, she was fairly out of control- bad crowd, drug use (and not just pot, but some harder stuff), failing in school, truancy, just a mess. Our parents were recently divorced and my alcoholic father was ineffectual as a parent.
So mom took my sister to court. To family court, and had her designated a ward of the court, subject to the judges orders. (I'm probably screwing up the terminology, but this was 23 years ago...). In essence, my mom scared my sister straight.
Like you, I'm sure that my mom would say it was one of the most difficult thing she ever did.
Several years ago, my sister thanked our mother for what she did.
Sounds like you have your hands full Dana. Who knows how this will all end for you and Cam. I think in the long run you must always strive to do the right thing. Cam needs checks and balances in his life. Your efforts to keep Cam on the straight and narrow at this time in his life are very important. I wish you both the best of luck. My prayers are with you.
I'm sure it was difficult. I don't know if I could do it, although I have "turned my kid in" in many ways before that didn't involve the Police. Good Luck to you both. Cheers!!
It wasn't until my brother got into trouble with the law the fifth time before my parents took it seriously and started to take action. I'm glad you are jumping all over this now. While it is hard, I look at the path my brother has traveled and truly believe it would have been different if my parents had gotten involved sooner.
Doing the right thing can be a total bitch, but it's necessary if you're gonna be a parent.. So, you did what you had to do.. It may take time, but one day he'll look back and know just how much you love him... Good luck to you and Cam.. :):)
I'm sure that was extremely difficult, but hopefully, it will send the message that you are always looking after him and care about his future. {{{Hugs}}}
Like Matt Man said, I don't know if I would be able to do "the right thing" in that situation. Seems like an impossible decision to me. But I bet you are teaching Cam on of the most important lessons of his life.
My son was talked into shop lifting something from a party store when he was about twelve.. the conversation that day was one-sided and loud. His ethics and morals today are impeccable, because I didn't teach him what was right or wrong about his actions- I explained the greater the risk, the greater the rewards.. Steal 10 million, not a candy bar... and plan it so you don't get caught. Otherwise, just don't do it.
I had an incident with the law in my youth. My father made damn sure I understood the bad choice I made...the impact was tremendous. I think he will come to appreciate what you did...later in life.
I once read that, when faced with a moral dilemna, the choice you least want to pick tends to be the right one. Without knowing it all (although know-it-all is a hat I wear), I suspect you did the right thing.
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When my sister was 14, she was fairly out of control- bad crowd, drug use (and not just pot, but some harder stuff), failing in school, truancy, just a mess. Our parents were recently divorced and my alcoholic father was ineffectual as a parent.
So mom took my sister to court. To family court, and had her designated a ward of the court, subject to the judges orders. (I'm probably screwing up the terminology, but this was 23 years ago...). In essence, my mom scared my sister straight.
Like you, I'm sure that my mom would say it was one of the most difficult thing she ever did.
Several years ago, my sister thanked our mother for what she did.
Sounds like you have your hands full Dana. Who knows how this will all end for you and Cam. I think in the long run you must always strive to do the right thing. Cam needs checks and balances in his life. Your efforts to keep Cam on the straight and narrow at this time in his life are very important. I wish you both the best of luck. My prayers are with you.
I'm sure it was difficult. I don't know if I could do it, although I have "turned my kid in" in many ways before that didn't involve the Police. Good Luck to you both. Cheers!!
I'm thinking about you both and wishing you well. It sounds like you did the right thing.
It wasn't until my brother got into trouble with the law the fifth time before my parents took it seriously and started to take action. I'm glad you are jumping all over this now. While it is hard, I look at the path my brother has traveled and truly believe it would have been different if my parents had gotten involved sooner.
We will be thinking about both of you.
It's tough love but you know that you are doing the right thing for Cam. I wish you luck and support.
Doing the right thing can be a total bitch, but it's necessary if you're gonna be a parent..
So, you did what you had to do.. It may take time, but one day he'll look back and know just how much you love him...
Good luck to you and Cam.. :):)
I'm sure that was extremely difficult, but hopefully, it will send the message that you are always looking after him and care about his future. {{{Hugs}}}
Like Matt Man said, I don't know if I would be able to do "the right thing" in that situation. Seems like an impossible decision to me. But I bet you are teaching Cam on of the most important lessons of his life.
My son was talked into shop lifting something from a party store when he was about twelve.. the conversation that day was one-sided and loud. His ethics and morals today are impeccable, because I didn't teach him what was right or wrong about his actions- I explained the greater the risk, the greater the rewards.. Steal 10 million, not a candy bar... and plan it so you don't get caught. Otherwise, just don't do it.
*hugs* I can only imagine how difficult that must have been. I think you did the right thing though.
I had an incident with the law in my youth. My father made damn sure I understood the bad choice I made...the impact was tremendous. I think he will come to appreciate what you did...later in life.
((Hug))
I am SURE it was the right thing to do...
Thinking of you and Cam.
Oh bless you!
All you can do is what you feel is the right thing. I commend your courage and wish the very best to both of you.
I once read that, when faced with a moral dilemna, the choice you least want to pick tends to be the right one. Without knowing it all (although know-it-all is a hat I wear), I suspect you did the right thing.
G'bless
Mr. Upton Ogood
I can only imagine.
life suckages just suck~~but the right thing is always the right thing~~no matter how hard and difficult
just do the next thing right
and it's only temporary, this too shall pass
Oh, man, that's rough. It really is the right thing to do, no matter how hard it was.
I've turned my son into the principal at school when he forged my name on a warning (he's only eight and he's forging my name???)
I can't wait to see what he gets himself into as a teen.
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