Faking, Faking...While I know plenty of people who are deeply and mutually in love. I know a fair amount of people while "in love" are actually quite miserable. Cheers Dana!!
I mean to add: Especially on the internet and on blogs. Look at all the "mommy" blogers who talk about their perfect little lives and their perfect kids and their perfect marriages and so on. That's all bullshit for a big majority of them. LOL
I think some are faking it, and I think some think that stability and comfort are love. I know I'm guilty of taking DH for granted because it gets very comfortable. I do love him, though, that's not fake. :)
Dana ~ first giving you some link love today. Second my thoughts there is true love, I have to believe in that. I see it in my parents - who have been to hell & back. I see it with Al & I ~ who have also been to hell a few times and back. But some people do a great job of faking it. Is it easy for anyone? No, I don't think so. But if love seems like work or a chore....then I think you need to stop and think about if it is love, or what it really is.
Geez did you make me think this afternoon.
My writing today happens to be about love, pop to the Cafe it will be linked in my post.
Some people have always been able to separate love and lust easier. Entertainment and media have taught us more than maybe we should have learned. The reasons for marriage have changed, and are different across the world- it makes everything legal, but it don't guarantee endless love!
Well this as well as most everything else, I have considered deeply. I can't even find a definition of love I can understand and relate to. I can't tell if I loved them all or have never loved any of them?! I can understand the love from parent to child and the adoration from child to parent but outside that I'm not sure I get it, have had it or even want it. That probably puts me in the fakers camp at this point. Just cracker thoughts. SS
I think most people fake it as I used to. I'm one of the small percentages now that have real love. I mean, this woman ROCKS MY WORLD. Not just every once in a while. I thank God for her daily.
But I went thru a LOT of frogs to find her. And I used my brain instead of my pussy when picking her out.
That helped a LOT!
And FYI...real love is worth all the shit and all of the waiting to find the right one.
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Faking, Faking...While I know plenty of people who are deeply and mutually in love. I know a fair amount of people while "in love" are actually quite miserable. Cheers Dana!!
I think you just get to a point of tolerance after a while -so you either tolerate the other person or you dont.
Matt-Man, in some ways I hope you are right!
DoggyBloggy, who ever thought love would turn in to tolerance?
I agree with Matt-Man on this one. My parents were in fake love for 20 years so they could raise us kids in a "stable" environment.
After a certain age the fact that they couldn't stand to be in the same room with each other became clearer and clearer.
Leighann, I'm not even sure that qualifies as "fake" love.
They're faking it. I don't know what % of people are faking but it bet its WAY over half.
I mean to add: Especially on the internet and on blogs. Look at all the "mommy" blogers who talk about their perfect little lives and their perfect kids and their perfect marriages and so on. That's all bullshit for a big majority of them. LOL
I think some are faking it, and I think some think that stability and comfort are love. I know I'm guilty of taking DH for granted because it gets very comfortable. I do love him, though, that's not fake. :)
Jay, I always wonder if it's denial or oblivion.
Amy, I guess a lot of it does depend on how one defines love.
Dana ~ first giving you some link love today.
Second my thoughts there is true love, I have to believe in that. I see it in my parents - who have been to hell & back. I see it with Al & I ~ who have also been to hell a few times and back.
But some people do a great job of faking it.
Is it easy for anyone? No, I don't think so. But if love seems like work or a chore....then I think you need to stop and think about if it is love, or what it really is.
Geez did you make me think this afternoon.
My writing today happens to be about love, pop to the Cafe it will be linked in my post.
Love ain't easy for me... that's for sure. Nothing to fake here... unless I plan to say I'm happy to not have found true love in life ;)
Alot of young marrieds start with lust and end up more in love-or less as their trip through life takes its' many twists and turns.
REH, I think being honest about not finding true love is just as (if not more) important.
Buffalodickdy, lust and love are often mistaken for the same thing I'm afraid.
Some people have always been able to separate love and lust easier. Entertainment and media have taught us more than maybe we should have learned. The reasons for marriage have changed, and are different across the world- it makes everything legal, but it don't guarantee endless love!
Good question... but I think I am going to go with faking...
Well this as well as most everything else, I have considered deeply. I can't even find a definition of love I can understand and relate to. I can't tell if I loved them all or have never loved any of them?! I can understand the love from parent to child and the adoration from child to parent but outside that I'm not sure I get it, have had it or even want it. That probably puts me in the fakers camp at this point.
Just cracker thoughts.
SS
I think most people fake it as I used to. I'm one of the small percentages now that have real love. I mean, this woman ROCKS MY WORLD. Not just every once in a while. I thank God for her daily.
But I went thru a LOT of frogs to find her. And I used my brain instead of my pussy when picking her out.
That helped a LOT!
And FYI...real love is worth all the shit and all of the waiting to find the right one.
Buf, I have no issues separating love and lust - in fact, I think that's why I don't fake it well.
Doc, I'm starting to think the masses are right.
SS, what's worse is that definition is different for everyone.
RLL, you give me hope!
I'm sure there is a little of both (some to more an extreme than others) in all relationships.
I feel like that all the time. I feel like it isn't supposed to be this hard...
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