06 January 2008

Sunday Secret


The fact that you didn't protect me from his drunken abuse hurt far more than it did when he hit and ridiculed me.

19 comments:

Schmoop said...

Sorry. From, what little I know of you, however, you seemed to have had the strength to remain a good person. And sadly, that's not always the case...

Dana said...
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Dana said...

Ahhh Matt-Man, no need to be sorry! It really is about what you do with the circumstances you find yourself in!

buffalodick said...

I'm so sorry. I grew up in a home that didn't get physical. We yelled at each other, but that was it. I told my sons, beating on people is not an answer, if you ever want their respect, or love.

Dana said...

Buffalodickdy, one of my biggest fears in becoming a parent was that I would parent like the example that was set for me. It's been a constant battle to do better.

DocMtCat said...

I hope that the person who this was meant for knows the extend of the hurt that they caused.


-Shane (doc)

Leighann said...

Physcial abuse goes away over time.... mental abuse and anguish lasts a lifetime.

It's the gift that keeps on giving.

Dana said...

Docmtcat, I'm sure at some level she does - she has to.

Leighann, the bright side to this is that I refuse to regift this!

Jeff B said...

I used to drink a lot. Thank God I never was a physical drunk, but I realized, like Leighann pointed to, the mental aspect can have just as bad if not worse consequences.

My oldest boy was only five when I stopped drinking. This is not my soap box on "alcohol is the devil", but in my case it was. I have no problem with anyone kicking a few back as long as they aren't abusing anyone around them.

Your statement helps me realize again that I made a good choice and I'm sorry you had to experience this in your own life.

R.E.H. said...

What hurt me the most growing up in similar circumstances was my inability to protect my mother.

Growing up in an abusive home is never easy... we can only take strength and heart from it - not to do the same to others.

captain corky said...

Very sad. It breaks my heart to hear about stuff like this.

Dana said...

Jeff, thank you for stepping up to the plate and doing what you needed to do!

REH, wow ... I knew I wouldn't be the only one.

Corky, in a perfect world, being a child would never hurt, but sometimes it does. I feel an obligation to make sure I am able to change that for at least one child in my lifetime.

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Real Live Lesbian said...

Hugs to you~and kudos for stopping abuse from trickling down another generation.

Diva said...

My father was(and still is) an alcoholic. Although he has become rather docile as he gets older and is no longer physically abusive, sometimes a sharp tongue can bring back many of those sad memories.

g-man said...

That's a tough one. Glad you are breaking the cycle.

Anonymous said...

Big hugs to you.That is so sad.

You are a strong woman now!

Anonymous said...

I wish there was something other than "I'm sorry" that I could say.

Christo Gonzales said...

my parents deny the belt was used...