Sunday Stealing | Identity Ask

(From Penny Royal Princess via Sunday Stealing)

1. Favorite style of clothing

First, let's set things straight - I do not have a style unless clean and not wrinkled is a style. If I could choose any style, and money was not a concern, I would mimic Danielle Colby's (from American Pickers) style and purchase most of my clothing from Pinup Girl Clothing. 

And yes, I do have a MAD girl crush on her

2. Do I ever get “good morning” or “good night ” texts?

I do occasionally get "good morning" and/or "good night" texts these days, but more often than not I am the one initiating those texts. I also get an occasional "Are you awake?" text. Seems most of the people that I chat with are on either central or eastern time.

3. Have I ever kissed the last person I texted?

*looks at my phone* Nope! Definitely not, although I would. What???

4. When did I last hold hands?

Oh goodness ... it's been somewhere between 18 and 24 months. I miss holding hands. I miss being touched.

5. How long does it take me to get ready in the morning?

6 out of 7 days, getting ready in the morning for me means putting on a comfy pair of shorts and a tank top and then walking the 10 steps to my desk. I'd say less than 30 seconds. If I actually have to get dressed and people? It takes about 45 minutes for me to shower, do my hair, get dressed and put on a face. I'm pretty low maintenance.

6. Have I shaved my legs in the past three days?

My legs? No. No one sees them - no one touches them - can't imagine why I'd worry too much about shaving them regularly. My armpits though are a different story!

7. Where am I right now?

Sitting at my desk in my bedroom.

8. Do I have someone of the opposite sex I can tell everything to?

I think so? Look, I tend to be a bit reserved with people when I first start talking/chatting with them. If I am with them in real life, I watch their body language to try to determine their comfort level. If I'm chatting with someone I've never met? It's a little more difficult to "feel them out," so I usually wait for them to offer a nugget of transparency before I do.

9. How often do I wear a fake smile?

Not often, but only because I'm not required to actually interact with real people very often. I would say I wear a fake smile about 90% of the time when forced to people with the general public.

10. When was the last time I hugged someone?

Hmmmm ... not as long as it's been since I held hands. Maybe 4 months? Did I mention that I miss being touched?

11. Is there anyone I trust even though I should not?

If you had asked me this question a year ago? It would be a definite YES! Now? I think I've learned to be a bit more skeptical/cynical, which isn't necessarily a bad thing.

12. What is something I disliked about today?

Well? Nothing so far, but later on I need to take my happy ass to Home Depot to get moving boxes/supplies. I am going to dislike that very much!

13. If I could meet anyone on this earth, who would it be?

Just meet? Like shake hands and take a selfie meet? No one. Meet like spend some time together and get to know each other better? There may or may not be someone out there that meets that criteria *wink*

14. What do I think about most?

Currently? I think most about moving. I don't want to move again, and once again my move was not my choice. I enjoy moving when it's my decision to move. When it's due to someone/something else? Not so much ... and not for the 3rd time in just over 2 years.

15. Do I prefer to be behind the camera or in front of it?

Behind the camera ... EVERY SINGLE TIME!!

16. Do I prefer talking on the phone or video chatting online?

Is no an acceptable answer? I prefer NEITHER of those communication methods, but if I was forced to choose one? Talking on the phone.

17. Do I believe in ghosts? How about aliens?

Ghosts? Maybe? It seems odd to me that when you die all of that energy dissipates into nothing. Aliens? Not like in the Area 52 aliens, but I do think it's quite possible that there are other living beings in other universes. Maybe they find us and save us!

18. Do I believe in magic?

I believe that there are people who are really skilled at performing optical illusions!

19. Do I believe in luck?

One of my favorite sayings is, "It's better to be lucky than good." I think much of life is luck. The families we are born into. The situations we are faced with in life. Yes, there is sometimes the whole "free will" thing that plays a part, but I believe those decisions are often luck as well.

20. What's the weather like right now?

At 9:45 AM in Las Vegas?

21. What was the last book I've read? 

Ta-Nehisi Coates - Between the World and Me

I need a new book so if anyone has any suggestions feel free to leave them in the comments. I prefer non-fiction and legal thrillers. And ... GO!

22. Do I like the smell of gasoline?

Oh do I!! And permanent markers too!

23. What was the worst injury I've ever had?

The worst was a knee injury suffered during a softball game. It require micro-fracture surgery and has never been the same.

24. Do I spend money or save it?

I am a saver. If I weren't I think Las Vegas may have chewed me up and spit me out by now!

25. Can I touch my nose with my tongue?

No, but why would I want to??

Me too

I’ve avoided this topic/trend - I didn’t want to come across as a victim, even though I was

I was date raped when I was 19. This is the FIRST time I’ve ever told anyone about this (*waves* Hi Internet!!) - it’s been 35 years

I went out to dinner with a guy I met at school. We actually had a good dinner date. When it was time to go home, he wouldn’t take me home, instead he took me to his apartment

I didn’t know what to do. He picked me up from my house. I had no transportation - no way to get home

It was “that time of the month” He forced himself into me even though I was using a tampon 

I stopped saying “no” when it was clear that “no” wasn’t going to be honored. I figured it would be over more quickly if I just laid there pretending it wasn’t happening

This was before cell phones - I had no access to an “out” - I eventually walked the 4 miles home at 2 AM (after he fell asleep) - I cried all the way

This was a time when it was assumed that women were in a perpetual state of consent. If a man wanted it, the woman consented. And for goodness sake - I was 6′ tall and probably 200+ lbs - how does someone my size get raped. Let's get real … no one would have believed me ... I knew that ... even then. Worse yet? I felt like I deserved it. That I dressed to provocatively - that I wasn't more forceful trying to get him to stop - that I din't drive myself. There is so much guilt ...

This thing with Brett Kavanaugh has brought up emotions I thought I had locked away 3+ decades ago

I guess I didn’t

TMI Tuesday | Connect

(via TMI Tuesday Blog)

1. How do you and your loved one connect?

I don't know why, but I find this question quite odd. My loved one? Are we talking significant other? Don't have one. Are we talking children? Text. Are we talking family members? Text. Are we talking the dead? Theresa Caputo.

2. When did you last make a mistake and were okay with that mistake?

I make mistakes regularly - some small - some big. I am never okay with the mistakes I make because I believe being okay with mistakes breeds complacency. I try to figure out what caused the mistake and avoid making the same mistake again.

3. What are you just not seeing?

I am not seeing what my life will look like in 10 years - I lost that vision about 18 months ago and I've not taken the time to figure out what my next vision should be. I need to get on that. Life has just been a series of reacting and existing, which isn't fulfilling at all.

4. If you could spend ten minutes with your hero alive or dead what would you ask them?

My hero has Genoa salami, prosciutto, mozzarella, and tomatoes on crusty bread. Wait ... this question isn't about food?

5. Who in your life do you wish you’d met sooner?

Hmmmm ... this is kind of one of those "If you could change any one thing" questions, and y'all know how I feel about those. I believe that people come into your life exactly when they should. I wouldn't want to mess with the flying spaghetti monster and universe.

Bonus: Have you ever won a medal for a sports activity? What sexual activity are you sure to win the gold?

I have never won a medal per se, but I have won several ribbons and trophies for sports over the years.

The sexual activity that I would win a gold medal in? Let's go with teasing - it's one of my favorite things to do - the strategic touch, random sext message, the build up of anticipation for what is going to happen next.

*SIDE NOTE* Don't google "sexual activity gold" ... just don't!