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Let me preface this TMI Tuesday by stating that much of this is what I would do/have done in an intimate relationship. In true TMI Tuesday fashion, it is probably best that I "come clean" with the fact that there has been no intimacy in my home for quite some time (months).
1. What do you do that sends a clear signal to your partner that you're interested in an intimate evening?
I'd say it depends upon what kind of sex I'm hoping for - loving, gentle sex or raw, physical sex.
If loving, passionate sex is my goal, I might send sappy texts throughout the day, bring him lunch, have dinner ready when he comes home and rub his shoulders/back after diner. I would attempt to be attentive and arousing. This works really well with "themed" sex too, where preparation makes the experience all the more intense.
If it's raw, physical sex I'm hoping for, an email, right before he leaves work to come home saying nothing more than "Come home and fuck me" would probably do the trick!
2. How important is foreplay to an exciting evening?
I think foreplay is extremely important when hoping for the loving, passionate sex. I also think it becomes more critical the older you get. Let's be honest - for the majority of us, things don't always work as quickly as we want them to once we hit our 40's and beyond. That doesn't mean the desire for great sex is any less, but foreplay has the potential to help the process along!
3. What is the first thing you do during foreplay or what is the first thing you like done to you?
Are we talking preparation foreplay, or we're nekkid in the bed foreplay here?
Preparation foreplay (I want sex but it's not yet a sure thing) would include touch - a lot of touch. Not overtly sexual touch, but rather overtly sensual touch. A brush up against him as he sets his laptop down - a hand on his lower back as he walks by - a hand on his forearm as he tells me about his day.
I usually like to start nekkid in the bed foreplay with kissing and more intimate touching - kissing and nibbling the his shoulders, his neck, his ear and eventually his lips. Deep, tongue probing kissing soon follows as I continuously and wantingly caress his chest - his thighs- his arms - with a firm, passionate touch.
Whew! It's been a while! I think I got myself all worked up over than one!
What works on me? I'm a simple woman - let me know that you want me - that I am the single, most important thing at that moment - and I'll be putty in your hands.
4. Are you a one and done kind of partner (20 minutes or so) or do you like intimacy sessions longer than 60 minutes?
If we have 60 minutes I'll take 62 minutes, but if 5 or 10 minutes is what we've got, I can work with that too!
BONUS: If you are interested in sex with a same-sex partner, what would be the first thing you'd like to touch on that other person, and why? (For those already in same sex relationships...what was the first thing you touched, or if you were interested in a relationship with the opposite sex, what would be the first thing you touched?)
Having experience in same sex relationships, I've not done anything any differently. Foreplay has to be tweaked to the individual. It's something that has far more impact if you are doing what the other person wants/responds to - not just some preplaned foreplay game. This hasn't been any different for me in a same-sex relationship than in a heterosexual relationship *shrugs*
1. What do you do that sends a clear signal to your partner that you're interested in an intimate evening?
I'd say it depends upon what kind of sex I'm hoping for - loving, gentle sex or raw, physical sex.
If loving, passionate sex is my goal, I might send sappy texts throughout the day, bring him lunch, have dinner ready when he comes home and rub his shoulders/back after diner. I would attempt to be attentive and arousing. This works really well with "themed" sex too, where preparation makes the experience all the more intense.
If it's raw, physical sex I'm hoping for, an email, right before he leaves work to come home saying nothing more than "Come home and fuck me" would probably do the trick!
2. How important is foreplay to an exciting evening?
I think foreplay is extremely important when hoping for the loving, passionate sex. I also think it becomes more critical the older you get. Let's be honest - for the majority of us, things don't always work as quickly as we want them to once we hit our 40's and beyond. That doesn't mean the desire for great sex is any less, but foreplay has the potential to help the process along!
3. What is the first thing you do during foreplay or what is the first thing you like done to you?
Are we talking preparation foreplay, or we're nekkid in the bed foreplay here?
Preparation foreplay (I want sex but it's not yet a sure thing) would include touch - a lot of touch. Not overtly sexual touch, but rather overtly sensual touch. A brush up against him as he sets his laptop down - a hand on his lower back as he walks by - a hand on his forearm as he tells me about his day.
I usually like to start nekkid in the bed foreplay with kissing and more intimate touching - kissing and nibbling the his shoulders, his neck, his ear and eventually his lips. Deep, tongue probing kissing soon follows as I continuously and wantingly caress his chest - his thighs- his arms - with a firm, passionate touch.
Whew! It's been a while! I think I got myself all worked up over than one!
What works on me? I'm a simple woman - let me know that you want me - that I am the single, most important thing at that moment - and I'll be putty in your hands.
4. Are you a one and done kind of partner (20 minutes or so) or do you like intimacy sessions longer than 60 minutes?
If we have 60 minutes I'll take 62 minutes, but if 5 or 10 minutes is what we've got, I can work with that too!
BONUS: If you are interested in sex with a same-sex partner, what would be the first thing you'd like to touch on that other person, and why? (For those already in same sex relationships...what was the first thing you touched, or if you were interested in a relationship with the opposite sex, what would be the first thing you touched?)
Having experience in same sex relationships, I've not done anything any differently. Foreplay has to be tweaked to the individual. It's something that has far more impact if you are doing what the other person wants/responds to - not just some preplaned foreplay game. This hasn't been any different for me in a same-sex relationship than in a heterosexual relationship *shrugs*
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