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I don't read a lot of mega blogs - blogs with thousands of readers that often tip the 500+ comments every single day. One of the reasons I stay away from them is that they intimidate me. I like to feel special - like if I comment someone will actually read my comment and see me as a person rather than another hit that will generate additional revenue on their blog.
This weekend I found myself on a mega blog. I saw this button and curiosity got the best of me. I clicked (you should too - after you finish reading my post).
The post discusses the secrets we keep - the image we struggle to maintain - and the benefit of being real. Although the entire post touched my heart, there was one section that hit me particularly hard:
My "perfection" would read:
That is my struggle - the one I've stayed away from sharing because there is a limit to my "realness" on this blog and in my life. The fear of judgment - of clearly showing that I am NOT strong - I am weak and selfish in my thinking - overwhelms me.
As Dan (Single Dad Laughing) states in his post:
The cure is so simple.
Be real.
Be real. Think about that. Be real. How many of you can say that you share your vulnerabilities as much as you share your "image"? Be honest with yourself.
I've bad mouthed readers Snugs and DoggyBloggy on more than one occasion. I think their comments are often vile and meant to take advantage of known vulnerabilities. But you know what? At least they are being real. They aren't blowing sunshine up my ass. I believe their motivations are less than admirable, but I know where they are coming from. They are real ... at least in their comments ...
That isn't true of all of my commenters, or in all of the blogs I read, and is certainly not true of many of the people in my "real" life.
Anyone want to spread "Real"? Leave a comment below sharing just how perfect you aren't (I've opened up the anonymous comment option for this post), or leave a comment over on Single Dad Laughing 's post. Let everyone know what you struggle with. Tell a sad or dark secret. Get vulnerable.
Be real.
Real is what makes us all human.
I don't read a lot of mega blogs - blogs with thousands of readers that often tip the 500+ comments every single day. One of the reasons I stay away from them is that they intimidate me. I like to feel special - like if I comment someone will actually read my comment and see me as a person rather than another hit that will generate additional revenue on their blog.
This weekend I found myself on a mega blog. I saw this button and curiosity got the best of me. I clicked (you should too - after you finish reading my post).
The post discusses the secrets we keep - the image we struggle to maintain - and the benefit of being real. Although the entire post touched my heart, there was one section that hit me particularly hard:
"Perfection" is a woman who is so overwhelmed that she thinks about killing herself daily. "Perfection" makes it so that she never will because of the things people will think if she does. How could I make my suicide look like an accident? If I kill myself, I don't want anybody knowing that I ever had any problems. She never stops to look at why she wants to do it, because healing means admitting imperfection.
My "perfection" would read:
"Perfection" is a mother who is so overwhelmed that she thinks about killing herself daily. "Perfection" makes it so that she never will because of the things her son will think if she does. She wonders how she could make her suicide look like an accident. And if someone in her family would be willing and able to give her son all that he needs. She knows that people think she is so strong, yet she cries - alone - most nights.
That is my struggle - the one I've stayed away from sharing because there is a limit to my "realness" on this blog and in my life. The fear of judgment - of clearly showing that I am NOT strong - I am weak and selfish in my thinking - overwhelms me.
As Dan (Single Dad Laughing) states in his post:
The cure is so simple.
Be real.
Be real. Think about that. Be real. How many of you can say that you share your vulnerabilities as much as you share your "image"? Be honest with yourself.
I've bad mouthed readers Snugs and DoggyBloggy on more than one occasion. I think their comments are often vile and meant to take advantage of known vulnerabilities. But you know what? At least they are being real. They aren't blowing sunshine up my ass. I believe their motivations are less than admirable, but I know where they are coming from. They are real ... at least in their comments ...
That isn't true of all of my commenters, or in all of the blogs I read, and is certainly not true of many of the people in my "real" life.
Anyone want to spread "Real"? Leave a comment below sharing just how perfect you aren't (I've opened up the anonymous comment option for this post), or leave a comment over on Single Dad Laughing 's post. Let everyone know what you struggle with. Tell a sad or dark secret. Get vulnerable.
Be real.
Real is what makes us all human.
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